Month: May 2018

In the crypts of Westminster Abbey, the following words were written on the tomb of an 11th Century Anglican Bishop:

“When I was young and free my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country. But it, too, seemed immovable. As I grew in my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it. And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realized: If I had only changed my self first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even changed my world.”

May each of us realize this before we arrive at our deathbed.

In other to (W)In the Moment, you must first be IN the Moment.

As I watched The Player’s Championship from TPC Sawgrass Golf Course, on the 2nd day Webb Simpson led by 7 shots, within striking distance of the hallowed 59 shots for a round of golf. He was now on the Par 4 17th Hole – the Island Hole – the green surrounded by water – intimidating & nerve wracking.

For a golfer, this is the ultimate test of nerves and mental toughness. Simpson’s first shot hit in the front, on the wood surrounding the green, bounced high, landed and rolled off the back edge into the water. Moving to the drop zone, he had to do it again and this time his ball landed safely.

Nerves of steel? That’s probably a good description. He recovered on the 18th and on Saturday played another great round. He won on Sunday.

It’s not our mistakes that define us. It’s what we do after the mistake that reveals our mental toughness.

As a coach, what do you do to keep your athletes focused on the moment before them, rather than a mistake from the past, however close that past is?

You, the Coach, have a profound influence on the mental toughness of the athletes you serve. Because practice is 90% physical and 10% mental and that flip flops in competition, where it is 10% physical and 90% mental, there are some key things you can do for your athletes in the pressure of competition.

One action sits above all others. Athletes regularly identify SELF-TALK as the first key they need to attack to reach their peak performance. A Coach’s words, therefore, become instrumental.

I ask athletes what they would think if a Coach said to them: “You can’t do anything right! What are you doing out there? That is not the way you have learned! I can’t believe you!”

Then I ask: “How many of you say those things to yourself?” Most say: “at least some or a lot of the time.”

Being (W)In the Moment requires positive self-talk. Here’s one thought about how you can help: avoid the word “should” and replace it with “could.” The impact is astounding. Self-talk becomes more positive because “could” owns the blame whereas “should” acts like a battering ram demonstrating incapability. “Could” is a step toward the possibilities, whereas “should” lead to feelings of judgment and failure.

Said another way, people already know what they “should have” done. A great Coach or mentor will tell them “you could have” and now “you can.”

Once “could” has been accepted or answered, then ask: “How would you do it differently next time?” When a Coach is (W)In the Moment, you can help your athletes be (W)In the Moment. It can start with you.

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Is your leadership being undermined by a volcanic threat?

My heart breaks for the people whose lives are being upended, swallowed and burned up by the newest eruptions of Kilauea on the Big Island of Hawaii. I have no idea what they are feeling but can only imagine the gut punch.

For the past year, ok 2 year, ok really it’s been a lifetime, I’ve observed leadership being undermined by the leader themselves. Today it occurred to me that there is great danger lurking beneath the facade of many leaders that threats to swallow them whole and destroy those they lead in the process. Leadership is a high calling, which is why I believe the #1 thing for a leader to cultivate is their character.

The #metoo movement has exposed a dangerous river of uncontrolled lust and power running beneath the lives of many. Too many. I’m glad to see the push for greater accountability and higher moral standards. Mostly, I’m overjoyed to see more people getting on board with respect for women. I hope it grows to greater respect for people in general.

What lies beneath us may be more of a determining factor of our leadership success than our IQ, EQ, or charisma. What looks safe and secure, can quickly be undermined by that which we have refused to deal with, we have ignored, or pushed aside or lack of awareness, often because we eschew feedback.

Most recently the former NY AG, Eric Schneiderman, resigned over assault allegations. A rising political star in his party, brought down by an eruption of that which had been circling beneath him. The list is long. It’s too long. It’s not the list on which you want to find your name. Think you stand firm? Beware. What is underneath?

My wife and I were in Hawaii last year for our 30th anniversary. It’s beautiful! I know several people who are residents of the islands. I am jealous of their pictures and posts, especially when I look outside my office window at the gray, cold and snowy Ohio winters. In Hawaii the weather is pretty boring if you ask me. Mostly always it’s the same. At least Ohio has the advantage of giving us variety, often in just minutes. Is that an advantage? But I digress.

I see the draw of owning a house in the Hawaiian Islands. It’s truly stunning. Then there is the volcano. Multiple volcanoes, not to mention one of the world’s most active called Kilauea. The evidence of its destructive power lies all around. Lava fields which cover once lush fields and entire subdivisions. The 1990 eruption is a signpost for all to see. So why build a home nearby or on the side of a volcano?

How do you know what’s underneath, threatening your home? What about that which threatens your leadership and your life? Honestly, most people know at least some of the issues in their own lives. A better question might be: How do you discover what you don’t know is there?

I remember saying to myself earlier in life: “If I can’t figure this out in my own life, I can at least help other people figure it out.” If you are unable to look back at your life and be aghast at how stupid you were, you have to question your leadership capabilities. Leaders are learners. You can only lead as far as you’ve gone yourself, so it’s imperative to do the work in order to be able to share the journey.

Leadership who choose to ignore their issues deserve what they have coming. It’s simple – You deserve what you allow.

There are things that can be done. As a Leadership Coach, I help people discover those things that threaten their leadership. I celebrate and strengthen strengths, uncover weaknesses and help people change behaviors that threaten the foundation of their leadership.

The molten magma that can undermine leadership tends to have three things in common across all levels, industries, genders and cultures. There is also the matter of the ground that hides or covers the threat. Let’s start there.

Lack of self-awareness is the covering that does not allow a leader to see what is dangerous below. There is an abundance of literature about growing your self-awareness and I would encourage you to search it out and learn. Self-awareness is simply the moment to moment insight one has about their feelings, how you come across to others and how others perceive you. There’s more to it but these are important pillars.

For my purpose here, I will simply mention three things that lead to this lack of awareness in most people’s lives.

First, lack of reflection. Leaders who don’t take time to reflect on their lives and leadership decisions are not going to be self-aware. Second, defensiveness. Leaders who can’t listen to, ask questions about, and apply learnings from feedback are going to grow blindspots rather than awareness. Self-aware leaders actually seek out feedback. Third, hubris – arrogance – pride. This may cover the other two but it has its own tentacles with far reaching effects.

Underneath this lack of awareness lurks the leadership magma that will destroy a leader. I have found that it comes in three ways. Like a fire smoldering in the attic or walls, these tendencies or traits will burst forth without warning. As Kilauea reminds us, it will bubble up in unexpected places too.

#1 – HABITS

Aristotle said: “We become just by doing just acts, temperate by doing temperate acts, brave by doing brave acts…we are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

If he’s right about excellence, and I believe he is, then it’s also true about imperfection. Leadership habits can help or hurt. Habitual magma includes things like: not prioritizing relationships; anger; lack of communication either by using too many words or not enough of them. The things we repeatedly do in the negative will eventually open fissures underneath relationships, companies, and the foundations of a business.

The most frequent bad leadership habit I see? Body Language that communicates lack of interest in others.

Be aware.

#2 – BELIEFS

The way a leader reacts to the circumstances and events of life is related less to the event and more to their beliefs about the event. If I believe, for instance, that people are lazy and incompetent, then when a project fails, I’m going to target those lazy and incompetent people. However, if I believe that people want to do excellent work, then when a project fails, I’m going to look at other possible issues to explain the failure.

Beliefs are the filter through which we interpret the events of our lives. What do you believe about people? About yourself? What are your beliefs about work? Success?

Successful people spend the time to understand these beliefs in their lives.

#3 – GRUDGES

Lack of forgiveness is, for me, the biggest cause of heat in the bubbling cauldron underneath a leader’s life. Holding grudges is distracting and debilitating. It gives all the power to those with whom you are angry. Leaders who hold grudges live in the past and make decisions based on what has happened versus what needs to happen.

Forgiveness is a 1-way street, not requiring the other person to deserve it or even receive it. Reconciliation is a 2-way street and it’s also what does not need to happen for success. It’s unfortunate, but unfortunately people don’t always figure out how to get along.

Successful people forgive quickly. They move on and do not feel responsible for the feelings and decisions of others.

What’s bubbling beneath your leadership? Be aware. Be careful. Take care of it before it explodes.

 

Wonder if mental training, when combined with physical training, actually works? The result are undeniable. Are you ready to join the fastest growing, most effective mental training in the world of swimming? (although Level Up works with others sports too)

Level Up Leadership Coaching just finished a banner year. On the collegiate level: 1 National Team Champion; 8 individual national champions; 3 conference champions; 2 conference coaches of the year; 1 national coach of the year; dozens of NCAA Div 1 and 3 qualifiers.

On the club level: 1 Junior National Team champion; 1 Junior National Cup Team Champion (Men & Women); 3 national junior team members; 12 Ohio High School individual state champions – 39 finals swims – 3 state records. That’s just in Ohio!

Mental toughness can be taught. It’s a fact that the body will follow the mind. You can prepare the body, but if you do not simultaneously prepare the mind, the body won’t know what to do in the pressure cooker of competition. That’s where Level Up Coaching comes in to partner with you.

Jeff did an outstanding job of helping the teams strip away peripheral tangential/distracting issues – thus allowing them to identify, understand, and focus on their primary motivations for team and individual success. He communicates equally well with either gender and relates easily with college aged athletes. His extensive background  and experience with world class athletes and exposure to world class performance makes him a valuable asset to anyone who is highly motivated to improve. Gregg Parini, Head Coach, Denison University – 2018 Men’s National Champions; 7x DIII National Coach of the Year

I have had the pleasure of knowing Jeff for many years. At FGCU, we believe in the overall development of the student-athlete. It has been important to me since day one that we provide every resource available to help our study-athletes better understand their teammates and themselves. In turn, with Jeff’s help, we have seen incredible results and the future of our program has never been better! Dave Rollins, Head Coach Florida Gulf Coast University; 2018 Women’t Conference Champions and Conference Coach of the Year

Through probing questions to the swimmers & coaches, keen insights and a deep well of swimming experience, Jeff Raker was deftly able to get a read on each group of swimmers, coaches  our team and how they all work together. I found the Level Up Coaching experience informative, interesting, challenging, nurturing and even fun! I know it has had a positive impact on me as an individual aspiring to develop and grow, and has helped our swimmers better understand themselves and, in turn, be better teammates. Ken Heis, Head Coach, Mason Manta Rays – 2017 Men’s Winter Junior National Champions; 2018 Men’s, Women’s & Team Junior National Cup Champions

Over the past few years I have tried to increase the active education of being a leader to the athletes who move through my group. As coaches, I feel that we are responsible for more than just creating fast swimmers. We have an opportunity to help mold swimmers into the future leaders of our team and beyond. Through Level Up, and with Jeff Raker leading the course, the swimmers have been able to reflect on themselves and how that relates to the overall group and team dynamics. Todd Billhimer, Associate Head Coach, Mason Manta Rays

Our program is constantly looking for ways to improve and get to another level. Level Up training has helped both individuals within our team, and therefore the program as a whole. There is buy in on moving toward excellence. Our athletes and coaches are learning an incredible amount about themselves and also about each other. This has boosted our program to a WHOLE NEW level. Mike Simpson, Head Coach, Gardner-Webb University Swim Teams

What we do IS a program. It’s also something we will tailor to YOUR needs, to fill in YOUR gaps. Sometimes a coach will ask for something we’ve never taught before, so we design it together. Often the choice is from a long list of options, such as the suggestions below:

• Self-awareness – foundational training using the DiSC Assessment
• Personal Accountability
• Championship Culture on a Team
• Visualization & Relaxation
• Stepping Up on Failure
• Stay in the Moment to Win the Moment
• Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

Level Up Coaching answers questions such as:

• How can I get beyond the stress I feel?
• How can I stop over-thinking my races?
• My brain seems to get in the way, how can I stay in the moment?
• How do I encourage my teammates who aren’t being helpful to the team?
• How can my coaching staff get more solidly on the same page?
• How can I help my athletes be more mentally tough?

Evidence means more than degrees, but they don’t hurt: Bachelor’s in Psychology, Masters degree, certification as an Executive Leadership Coach (5 years). Undergirding this training is my experience: D1 swimmer at Cincinnati, coaching experience, masters swimmer and presenting on of the U.S. FINA starters. Surrounding it all is 30 years of leading non-profits and dealing with people.

Level Up Coaching won’t tell you how to coach better, but we will help you be a better coach with the people you coach. We will help your athletes understand each other so that the culture is positive & productive, the perfect soil in which to grow champions.

Contact us now to schedule a time to talk and then let’s schedule time with your staff and team(s). The average program asks for 4 sessions through  year, with some desiring up to 6.

Are you with a University or College? Level Up Coaching offers a Leadership Academy for multiple teams or the entire athletic department across all the teams. What we do is not sport specific. It’s people specific. Whatever sport you coach deals with people and that’s where Level Up Coaching brings the expertise. We know people.

We look forward to partnering with you to raise swimming and diving to a new level of excellence, both in and out of the pool.

Concerned about costs? It’s a good question. Let’s talk about it. We have a package to fit your budget and achieve your goals.

Jeffery A. Raker

Owner, Level Up Leadership Coaching               Jeff@levelupleadershipcoach.com                                                                              513-675-0570

Recently while driving a  rental car, at night, in a driving rain, another car flashed his brights once from behind me – far behind, not like he wanted me out of his way. I glanced around and down wondering and soon saw that my lights were not on. This unfamiliar car was not equipped with lights that come on automatically, like the car which which I’m most familiar.

At first after the flashing lights, I thought: “What’s that about?” A little irritated.

My second thought was, “What might be wrong?” In other words, this could be someone trying to help me.

The third thought was, “What a dummy! Driving around dangerously without my lights on!”

Often we move through the same sequence when receiving feedback. We stat at defensive or questioning. We move to accepting and wondering. We often end in, oops, missed that. They were so right!

We can just as easily get stuck at the first or second plateau.

People who want to succeed and grow are people who are accepting of feedback. Leaders are learners. The best leaders will learn from anyone and any thing, whether friendly or attacking. When a persona wastes time arguing with someone’s feedback or opinion, they are not learning but defending. Successful leaders ask questions:

“Can you describe what I did or what I do?”

“Where did you last see me do that?”

“How could it be done differently next time?”

If you find yourself getting stuck at the 1st or 2nd level, ask yourself what that’s about? are you in learning mode or defensive mode. If defensive, what are you defending? What caused you to circle the wagons?

It’s hard for us to see when we’re in a rut. Feedback helps us understand, even saving us from living dangerously. I was thankful someone took a moment to try to help.

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